Are We Missing Half Our Leadership Talent?

The world watched in stunned silence as news broke of a terrorist attack on two mosques in Christchurch. While global leaders scrambled with prepared statements, New Zealand's Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern stood before cameras, her face etched with genuine grief but her voice unwavering. "They have chosen to make New Zealand their home," she said of the Muslim victims, her voice catching slightly. "They are us." In those three simple words, Ardern transformed what could have been a moment of division into one of profound unity. The next day, she arrived in Christchurch wearing a black hijab, kneeling to embrace community members with a warmth that transcended political performance. When a grieving father met her, unable to speak through tears, she simply held him, asking quietly, "What can we do?"

What followed wasn't just compassion, but decisive action. While other nations offered "thoughts and prayers" after mass shootings, within six days Ardern had announced comprehensive gun law reforms. When reporters pressed her to name the shooter, she refused outright: "He sought notoriety. That is why you will never hear me mention his name."

What made Ardern's leadership extraordinary wasn't that she led as a woman, but that she refused to accept the false choice between empathy and strength. She showed that compassion could be a catalyst for decisive action rather than a substitute for it. As we commemorate March 8—International Women's Day—let's explore the theme of women and leadership in more depth.

🤔 The Myth of the "Emotional Woman"

Perhaps the most persistent stereotype facing women in leadership is that they are "too emotional" for high-stakes decision-making roles. What research actually shows is not that women experience emotions more intensely than men, but that certain emotional expressions are coded differently based on gender. A man's anger is often interpreted as passion, determination, or strength of conviction. A woman displaying the same emotion may be labeled as unstable, irrational, or "difficult."

In a landmark study published in the Academy of Management Journal, researchers found that men who expressed anger in professional settings were conferred higher status, while women who expressed identical emotions were assigned lower status and influence. The issue isn't emotion itself – it's how we interpret the same emotions through gendered lenses.

❌ Common Misconceptions About Women's Leadership

1. Women aren't ambitious enough for top roles. Studies show women have equal ambition but face more barriers. Research finds women receive fewer key opportunities like stretch assignments and sponsorship that are essential for advancement.

2. There's a pipeline problem. Women earn more degrees than men in most developed countries. The key issue is the "broken rung" – women are less likely to be promoted to first management roles, creating a narrowing talent funnel.

3. Women leaders must choose between being liked and being respected. This false dichotomy stems from gendered expectations that don't apply to men. Research on leadership effectiveness shows women can successfully navigate these expectations through authentic leadership styles that combine warmth and competence.

4. Gender-balanced leadership is just about fairness. While equity matters, the business case stands on its own. Organizations with gender-balanced leadership demonstrably outperform their less diverse counterparts across financial and operational metrics.

5. Women lead the same way men do – gender doesn't matter in leadership style. Research shows leadership styles aren't inherently gendered, but different lived experiences and socialization can bring valuable diversity of thought and approach to leadership teams. The value isn't in women leading "like women" but in bringing diverse perspectives that enhance collective decision-making.

6. When women reach senior levels, they don't support other women: Research shows that women leaders are actually more likely than men to mentor, sponsor, and advocate for other women. The "queen bee" narrative persists because it places blame on individual women rather than examining the systemic biases that create competition among underrepresented groups.

⚡ What Can You Do?

Everyone has a role in creating gender-balanced leadership. Here are key actions for allies:

👥 For Allies (Supporting Women Leaders):

• Amplify Women's Voices: When female colleagues speak in meetings, support their ideas and ensure they receive proper credit. If they're interrupted, help bring the conversation back to their points.

• Address Bias: Challenge stereotypes with facts and promote merit-based decisions. Create an environment where women are evaluated fairly.

• Mentor and Sponsor: Actively mentor women colleagues and advocate for them. Recommend them for leadership roles and connect them with opportunities.

• Ensure Equal Participation: Share administrative tasks equally and include women in important networking opportunities and conversations. This builds crucial visibility and relationships.

💪 For Women (Stepping into Leadership):

• Own Your Achievements: Take credit for your work and communicate your career goals clearly. Share your team's successes and your role in them to ensure your impact is visible.

• Seek Mentors: Build a support network of mentors who can guide you and sponsors who will advocate for you. Don't hesitate to ask for advice - most leaders are willing to help.

• Take Bold Steps: Apply for roles even if you meet only some qualifications. Step up for stretch assignments even when not fully ready. Remember: you earned your place - use it.

• Support Other Women: Help others advance by advocating for peers, sharing knowledge, and celebrating successes. A strong support network benefits everyone and normalizes women in leadership.

📚 Resources to Deepen Your Understanding

• Book: "How Women Rise" by Sally Helgesen & Marshall Goldsmith explores the specific habits that hold women back from advancement and provides practical strategies for overcoming them.

• TED Talk: "Why We Have Too Few Women Leaders" by Sheryl Sandberg is a classic examination of the systemic and personal barriers to women's leadership advancement that remains relevant today.

• Podcast: "Women at Work" by Harvard Business Review is a candid conversations about the workplace experiences of women, featuring research-backed advice from experts.

📢 Shoutout to Powerful Women Leaders I've Had the Chance to Meet

These are not just women who are walking the walk, but women empowering other women:

Merissa Khurma - advocating for women's rights in the Middle East & US

Payzee Mahmod - working to end child marriage (check out her TED talk)

Jana DeGrott - advocating for women of color in Europe

Yuliia Sachuk - empowering Ukrainian (and otherwise) women living with disabilities

Sarah Little - leading More to her story platform, advocating for women's rights globally

Nilofar Ayoubi- fighting for Afghan women's rights

Nika Kovac - fighting for women's reproductive rights in Europe

Nadia Oweidat - fighting for women's education in the Middle East

Tammy Darcy - empowering Irish girls to become strong, confident leaders

The path to better leadership doesn't require women to become more like men or men to become more like women. It requires all of us to become more fully human—to lead with both strength and empathy, confidence and humility, vision and pragmatism. The future of leadership isn't about gender; it's about the wisdom to recognize that our greatest challenges require all our voices.